REALITY CHECK

2013 is almost half over! Are you ready to stop complaining about what’s not right in your life, and change the things that are under your control?  Or will you watch the months speed away until another December is here and you’re making the same resolutions all over again?  You know my tag line: wake up, what are you waiting for?  So what’s not working in your life?  For most, it is usually one of these top three issues:

  1. Dissatisfaction with your body;
  2. Dissatisfaction with your job or career; and
  3. Dissatisfaction with your spouse or mate.

REALITY CHECK!  These issues will not go away until YOU make a change.

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I just don’t what to do or how to do it!” you say? That’s where someone like me comes in.  The strategies and plans I employ with my clients vary depending on the individual and their circumstances, and are too detailed for me to state herein.  But I can give you some general guidelines that will put you on the path to successful achievement of change.

1. Dissatisfaction with your body.

reality6I have frequently addressed the basics to changing and maintaining your body weight and tone, but here’s the prime golden nugget (not to be confused with a chicken nugget):

Fuel in vs. fuel outEat fewer calories than you burn and you will lose weight.  So if you goal is weight loss, change your nutrition to be balanced and healthy (lots of fruits, veggies, and water; and avoid sodas, sugary and processed, high-fat or fried foods).  Eat six small meals a day (and I mean small) and stick to a commitment of at least three one-hour workouts each week (minimum).  Nothing too difficult here, right?

There is no dieting (that implies temporary)! You will not no join a gym for three months, then fizzle out.  There IS only a permanent decision to eat small quantities of healthier foods at frequent intervals (still allowing yourself to enjoy the “sinfuls” like ice cream and alcohol, just in very moderate amounts), and a strict realization that you are important enough to commit to at least three gym visits every week – period.

2. Dissatisfaction with your job or career.

I know that now is a scary time in the work force: layoffs, budget cuts, etc.  But you still owe yourself this bottom line:  Life is too short to work at a job that brings you no joy and no reward (including financially).  At the very least, a job that you have no passion for must be a short term stepping stone, or means to an end to get you to your primary career goal.  Have a plan so that this soul-sucking job has an end in sight!reality5

As you ponder what it is you really want to be when you grow up, consider your strengths and weaknesses.  Create an honest list of what you have to offer, what you are good at, as well as what kind of work does not suit your skills and temperament. Remember: there is no success without an attempt.  So make those attempts, try to do something new, network with people, scour the internet, or simply create a way to offer your services where they are needed. If you focus on what it is you WANT to do rather than fretting about what you ARE doing, you’ll be surprised what fortunes come your way.

3. Dissatisfaction with your spouse or mate.

reality2Ah, the biggie.  Raise your hand if you are in a relationship that has gone stagnant, or never quite fit to begin with.  Are you in a relationship because you hate being alone?  Have you ever noticed that you can feel far lonelier in a dysfunctional, unsatisfying relationship than when you are single?

Below is a compatibility quiz.  Note, that these items are listed in no order of priority.  They are simply the eight items that help relationships have little discord/strife.  Discord is what tears us down, ruins intimacy, and builds resentment.

1.  Similar family backgrounds (upbringing, family size, involvement)

2.  Similar views on children (how many, how to raise them, etc.)

3.  Similar views on religion (or spirituality)

4.  Similar views on money (save it, spend it, hoard it, waste it)

5.  Similar views on sex & affection (frequency, style, comfort zones)

6.  Similar styles of communication (big talkers or pretend nothing’s wrong)

7.  Similar likes on activities (movie tastes, sports, hobbies, vacations)

8.  Similar senses of humor (when all else fails, laughter!)reality3

The more of these items you have in common the more successful the union.  (This is not to say that you cannot have a satisfying relationship with few of these commonalities, but it will require more work and energy).  So if you ware in a relationship that has run its course or is simply too incompatible for longevity, think about moving on.  What are you waiting for?

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My final comments to guide you to a New You epiphany is this: the only thing that holds us back from anything in life, is fear.

Fear of failure. Fear of rejection.  Fear of pain.  Fear of the unknown.

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Figure out which fear (or fears) is holding you back, and face that fear.  You are not alone.  You are stronger than you think.  Push though the obstacle and have a better life.  Now is the time!

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