“Money makes the world go around.” “Time is money.” These are adages we hear frequently. Almost everything we do equates in some way to the saving of money or the saving of time. Was one of the factors behind the choice of your current car it’s gas mileage, or it’s speed (because it would get you where you need to go faster – saving time)? Do you shop at Food For Less instead of Whole Foods because you get more groceries for your dollars, or are organic co-op produced foods more important to you?
Think about how many decisions and choices you make daily that meet one of these two criteria – money or time. Now ask yourself, how much are you worth? Is there a price? Equally as important, what is your time worth?
Robert Kiyosaki who wrote the popular book series Rich Dad Poor Dad asks this question. If you have a $10 error on your credit card statement, and it takes 30 minutes or more to dispute, was that worth your time? If you were paid $20 hourly, you just lost $10-20 fighting that $10 charge. What else could you have been doing with that time that might have netted you income (or much needed time for you that has no price tag).
Unfortunately, many of us focus on time or money as external to our personal value. Are you as valuable as your spouse, children, or parents? The answer is you and your health are invaluable. You cannot put a price on them. So why then, do you often put yourself last to the wants and needs of those around you? There’s a reason flight attendants instruct parents to place the oxygen mask over their faces before placing it on their children. It’s because without you, the rest of your family is lost. So when you make a choice that negates your own well being, you are negatively affecting those around you.
I’m speaking primarily to all the “super” women out there who take care of everyone else’s needs above their own. The quality of your life may be suffering by your insistence to do it all, be it all, and yet not expect and insist upon proper reward for your hard work. If it’s not in money, it needs to be in reciprocation of time off, emotional support, or sharing of responsibilities/chores.
Spouses need to be equal partners in sharing the load. Children need to learn to handle chores and responsibilities and appreciate what they are given. Family and friends need to return favors, initiate get-togethers, and offer their shoulders to lean on when it’s your turn to need support.
So the next time you feel resentment that you aren’t appreciated enough by those around you, look within. Do you value what you do and who you are? If you do, insist upon that from others. The famous quote from the movie Jerry McQuire suddenly has much more meaning: “Show Me The Money!”